Monthly Archives: July 2012

Make Small Deposits In Your Child Each Day

Have you ever met a parent that wasn’t busy??  I don’t care if you have one child or “19 and counting”.  If you are raising children in today’s world you are busy!  We all want what is best when it comes to raising our children.  Because we are so busy we tend to look for that one thing or that secret sauce.  The truth is this, that “one thing” does not exist.  Focus on the relationship you are building with your child or children.  And remember that relationships are not always full of good news and warm fuzzies.  There are tough decisions and tough conversations that have to happen.   Learn to appreciate them both! Think of each one as an opportunity to make a small deposit in your child that will sprout and bear fruit one day.  All of those deposits will add up over time.  You WILL have the relationship that you want to have with your child.  Communicate, educate and hold them accountable with love! Remember that relationships take time.  Time with YOU:)

We have developed a tool for parents that will create coaching opportunities with your child on a regular basis.  The key to using the system is the “accountability” card that changes each week.  Each time your child brings you the card, think of it as an opportunity to make a small deposit.   check out our website and tell us what you think….. http://102030Go.com

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Pray With Your Children

We must guide our children as they develop a personal relationship with God, so that prayer becomes a habit and something they rely on.  As parents, we have a responsibility to get our children to Heaven… and how can we accomplish that unless we demonstrate to them when they are young what it means to live a prayerful life. Personal prayer is the key to a relationship with God.

We first demonstrate how to pray by praying with our children when they are young.  We then encourage them to pray on their own.  Teach them to listen to their hearts and then ask God for whatever they need no matter how small or insignificant it might seem.  As parents, we reinforce the prayerful life by modeling and sharing with them insight into our personal prayers.   By opening these lines of communication we are giving our children insight into our feelings and fears.  When the child reciprocates with their requests, we gain insight into their feelings and fears.

When I pray with my 4 year old twins and they pray for “blankie”, zebra, monkey, bear, etc.  I am reminded of  Ephesians 6:18 “and pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayer and requests.”  There is no request too small or too big for God and He wants to hear them all.  Don’t worry about content , get started praying with your children.  Eventually they will make that relationship with God their own.

Bo Govea~ 10-20-30GO! Families Functioning Faithfully

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Find Your “Change Champion”

Michael is our son that would help around the house even before we started the 10-20-30GO! system, and without receiving a commission or reward.  Imagine his excitement when he saw an opportunity to excel, receive praise and a reward.  He immediately took to the system and made it a priority in his daily life.  Rarely do we have to ask him if his card is complete, as he brings it to us daily with little resistance or complaint.

The “change champion” is the child in your family that seeks attention from mom and dad by doing good and what is asked.  He or she like to please.  They are the one that has been following along with the rules for some time and they are not being affirmed or rewarded.  Starting a system where they can be rewarded will make them feel good about these accomplishments.

Find your change champion, every family has one, and they will lead the others in the family.  They are just waiting for opportunity!

Bo Govea

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